Trying to break the habit of “people-pleasing”? It’s time to release the weight of always putting other peoples’ needs above your own.

If you are a partner of someone with an addiction, there’s no wonder so many emotions come up for you. This is about YOU and your decision for how you want to move forward.

Sobriety is about avoiding harmful coping strategies, while recovery is about healing so you don’t need them. In recovery, we don’t just avoid our medicators (ex: porn, sex, shopping, etc…). We heal our relationship with them. We discover the antidote to addiction: connection. We identify the underlying emotional and psychological needs we were attempting to meet, and we learn to get our needs met in new, healthy ways that feel good to us and to others.

Re-entering the world of dating can be “intimidating.” However, it also has the potential to be really exciting. If you have experienced the butterflies that come with connecting to someone special, you know what I mean. But sometimes this excitement can take over into something bigger - fantasy. So, how do we enter into the world of dating without falling into fear or fantasy?

If trauma is left unhealed, unprocessed, and even ignored, the pain finds a way to manifest. In fact, our trauma wounding has the potential to become re-enacted through patterns of addiction, including sex addiction and process addiction. Fortunately, there is hope for healing.

We sing about it in songs, cry about it in movies, and search for it our whole lives. Billboards advertise it and magazines flaunt tips or tricks to achieve that perfect romance. Let’s face it: we all love love.
So how do we know if we have crossed the line into a love addiction?